Thursday 25 July 2013

Thankful Thursday

Another late post that I am scrambling around to put together - but only after reading Francesca's Thankful Thursday post - mainly because I want to say EXACTLY what she said !!!!

Only I don't have Missy Moos to spend time with - K, right now, isn't someone I want to spend too much time with - she wears about 25 pairs of cranky pants at a time PLUS I realise that this is actually not her issue, it's mine because I am wearing 50 pairs of cranky pants most of the time !!!  (What do they say about what you see in others being a reflection of yourself ?)

Poor A is stuck in the middle (Now I would really rather be a reflection of him but that doesn't seem to be happening !!!) and I do feel sorry for him - he says that he doesn't want to go back to work in Townsville but I wonder if there is a teeny tiny bit of him that is looking forward to getting out of the house from hell !!!!  I am so sick and tired of the tension between the two of them - he is the protective father who seems to be having some trouble letting go of  his little girl and she seems to go out of her way to be narky towards him at every opportunity that she can.

I had a long talk to her about it last night and her comment was "Was Papa like that with you ?" - I tried to explain to her that I grew up in a totally different environment.  My parents spoke and that was that - their word was law.  There were no discussions.  There were no negotiations. And there was certainly no back chat.  There was respect and there was acceptance of what they had said.  Now I understand that we are largely to blame for her up front attitude because we brought her up to be independant and to question things but we certainly didn't bring her up to be dis-respectful - she learned that all by herself somewhere along the way !!!

Having complained about them I am still thankful that they are my family, my support and my anchors.  I am thankful that they are in my life.  I am thankful for my on-line friends although I feel that I have neglected them of late and have been rushing around trying to comment on as many posts as I can.  Maybe that is part of the problem - I need to take a step back and hope that people will not think I am snubbing them if I haven't commented, it just means I haven't had time.  I linked in late for #IBOT and felt so guilty because I didn't get to at least 98% of the blogs - yes, that is how many I try to comment on.  Generally I don't comment on giveaways, reviews or recipes.  Honestly, I haven't posted because I have been too busy trying to comment - maybe I have this blogging thing around the wrong way - maybe I should post when I have something to say and comment when I can ? 

Do you comment before you blog or write your
post and then comment on other blogs ?
 
TFTD : Dare to reach into the darkness, to pull someone else into the light. Remember, strong people stand up for themselves, but stronger people stand up for others too, and lend a hand when they’re able.
 

11 comments:

  1. Your situation with hubster and daughter sounds like what is happening in our house. I am astonished to find that my beloved hubster has turned into an uber strict Italian papa. With a daughter as headstrong as Miss 16, it makes for some "interesting" times, and like you, I feel like the meat in the sandwich at times ...

    I am also beginning to feel that I am an almost empty-nester (the kids may still live here but they’re hardly ever home!).

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    1. It's always good to know that I am not alone in this journey - thank you Janet !!!!
      Have the best weekend.
      Me

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  2. I don't have time to blog just at the moment and my blog readding is way behind too - but normaly I read first and then write later. I don't know why I just do :)

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    1. Again - always good to know that I am not alone. I hope you can find some time to catch up soon !
      Have a great weekend !
      Me

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  3. I don't even want to think about that stage yet! I hope that peace returns to your home soon!

    I think there's just so much out there, that we have to realise there simply aren't enough hours in the day to read it all!

    Thanks for linking up ☺

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    1. Peace will reign from Monday when A goes back to Townsville !!!!
      You are right - there is so much out there I have tried to be more selective over the blogs that I follow so that I can keep up with them.
      Have a great weekend !
      Me

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  4. Ahh the glorious teenage years and beyond! It makes teething and two year temper tantrums seem like a walk in the park !
    I would love for you to take some time to sit down and remember why you started blogging and how you started blogging in the first place.
    I bet you never started with the intention of blogging daily, jumping on every linky bandwagon or feeling obligated to comment on 60 posts a day. You just like to write. All the rest is just negative voices in your head telling you that you haven't done it right. Those are same guilt-tripping voices that tell you that you should have done more housework, more exercise, more work.
    xxxxx Tell those voices to shut the hell up !
    I don't write every day, so if I don't have a post, I just don't write. I'm really okay with that. xx

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    1. Thanks for those really wise words Lisa - you are so right. I think I need to sit down and think about why I started blogging in the first place - it was for the motivation and accountability - which I still get - I think I need to just cut myself some slack about trying to read and comment on everyone's blog that I follow. It's so hard because I know how much I love getting comments - but, at the end of the day, there is only so much time isn't there ?
      Have the best weekend !
      Me

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  5. I am going through tough times with J too at the moment! Sometimes I wish they would all go away and solve their own problems without involving me but then I remember that that is what being a mother is all about and I signed up for this job. Sigh.
    Have a wonderful weekend and know you are being thought of.
    xxx

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    1. LOL Julie, I have thought that a few times too !!!!! "Just leave me alone until the two of you have sorted things out" !!!!!!!
      Thank you for thinking of me, Lovely Lady !!!
      Have the best weekend !
      Me

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  6. Cranky pants...I ♥ LOVE ♥ IT!
    Some of our kids don't show repect towards us at all!
    I don't get that.

    I would have NEVER EVER talked back to my parents. EVER.

    When did today's kids get the idea that that sort of behaviour is OK?

    onward.... I blog first and foremost. If I get time to comment I do. If not, I don't let it worry me too much now.

    Today I have dedicated the entire day to reading and commenting on most of the blogs I follow. It will take ALL DAY.

    And that is why I don't do it as often as I used to. I am living my life, and if readers leave because I haven't commented on their blogs too... that is just a bit sad.

    I have a busy life. If ya read my blog you would know this! *smiles*

    I thank you for the times you do comment on my blog... THANK YOU.

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