2013 is the year that I plan on learning how to be kind to myself.
I am, and always have been, my biggest enemy ! I continually think I should have done better. If I lose 1kg I think I should have lost 1.2kg. If I run under 7mins, I think I should have run under 6:40 mins. If I make bad food choices, I think I am the worst person around who has stuffed up YET AGAIN. If I don't reach my goals in the (mostly unrealistic) time frames I have set, I think I am just useless and probably shouldn't waste my time trying anyway.
This year I want to learn how to be kind to myself. I want to try to stop the negative self talk that happens. I want to be to myself the supportive person that I try to be to others. A very dear friend has been beating herself up over what has happened over the past 4 weeks and I said she should pretend it was someone else she was talking to, someone who had done exactly what she had done, and see what she would say to them.
And then the light bulb moment happened for me. That is EXACTLY what I need to do to myself. I need to support myself the same as (I feel) I support my friends - give them words of encouragement when they feel like they have failed, reassure them that it really is not the end of the world if they have stuffed up, love them because we are all human and we all have a tendency to sometimes make choices that aren't necessarily the best choices we could make.
If I can do this for my friends, shouldn't I be able to do it for myself ?
Shouldn't I be my biggest fan ? Not my husband or my daughter or my friends - shouldn't I be my number 1 fan ? Shouldn't I be the one nurturing myself and encouraging myself to the best that I can possibly be ?
For me, the answer to these questions is a BIG FAT RESOUNDING YES !!! I should be my biggest fan. I should be nurturing myself. I should be encouraging myself to be the best that I can be.
So that is what is am going to do - I am going to work really hard on being my biggest fan - not getting down on myself when things don't go how I think they should, giving myself a break from having to be an all or nothing kind of girl.
Recently I saw this on MINsMASH's blog and it touched me so much I printed it off, cut it out and stuck it on my computer - in front of me, every day of the week !!
This is my current mantra !!
In my endeavour to stay as positive as I can about my life and where it is moving and how I am going to get there, I have re-introduced the daily Thought For The Day e-mail. Each morning (most times it's the morning !!) I send out a thought for the day (TFTD) - one that makes me think or one that I find is particularly applicable to me at that point in time. If you are interested in being on this list, please e-mail me your address and I will include you in the list.
Have the best day and take care !
Linking in with Essentially Jess for #IBOT
TFTD : Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice - Steve Jobs