Bed Etiquette

For those of you who have been following my blog for a while, you will know the issues that I have with sleep (or lack of sleep) depending on how A's snoring is going (or not going) !  Now I have a new dilemma and I am hoping that someone out there will be able to help me with this - how do you know when you have taken up too much of the bed ?

For 24.75 yrs we had two single beds pushed together to make a king size bed (I like my space especially in the summer when it is just too hot to be lying skin to skin).  This meant that I always knew where my bed stopped and his bed started so when I was being greedy, I knew because clearly I was 'over the line' !  We would often play the 'cutting off body parts' game i.e. any bodyparts over 'the line' were fair game to the other person to cut off using their hand as an imaginary saw.

We have always had two doonas because I CANNOT stand the gap that resulted when we tried to use one doona/blanket.  A few years ago we bought two double doonas to replace the single doonas we had always had and they are even better - some nights we use one doona for both of us and some nights we each use our own depending on how hot or cold I am feeling.

When we were in NZ on holiday recently we stayed at Radfords Motel in Te Anau and the bed was one of the best we have ever slept in outside of our own.  I meant to ask the owner what type of bed it was before we left but I completely forgot so had to email her.  It was a Sleepyhead bed so we went and had a look at them over here.  We couldn't find the specific one that we had slept on as it was a commercial model but we did find one that we both liked that had separate pockets (can't remember the technical name they used) but basically when I move A doesn't feel it and when he moves I don't feel it which is great because I have often wondered about my tossing and turning being disruptive for him (stupidly given he continues to snore anyway so clearly it doesn't keep him awake when I toss and turn !!!)

This is the mattress we bought

Our new mattress was delivered a couple of weeks ago and it really is very comfy BUT the predicament I find myself in now is that I don't know where the middle of the bed is - so where does my half finish and his half start.  Now I am sure I take up more than half the bed even though he is bigger than me.  I even find that I move my pillow over and we land up both sleeping on the same side of the bed with my legs stretched out to the end of my side of the bed (sort of right angles to my body).

Does anyone else do this ?  Or am I the only one who worries about how much of the bed I am taking up ?  I guess it isn't an issue for him because he hasn't complained about it.  When we had the two single mattresses there were a few occasions when I lay so far across on his bed he got up, walked around the beds and went and slept on my bed but he hasn't done that as yet with the new mattress.

Do you share your bed equally or does one of you hog the bulk of the bed ?

TFTD : When you begin to value yourself, others will also.  How you treat yourself teaches others how to treat you.